I Hate You--don't Leave Me

I Hate You--don't Leave Me

Understanding the Borderline Personality

Book - 2010
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For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, and treat. But with this classic guide, Dr. Jerold J Kreisman and health writer Hal Straus offer much-needed professional advice, helping victims and their families understand and cope with this troubling, shockingly widespread affliction.
Publisher: New York, N.Y. : Penguin Group, [2010]
Edition: Completely revised and upd.
Copyright Date: ©2010
ISBN: 9780399536212
Characteristics: xiv, 271 pages ; 21 cm
Additional Contributors: Straus, Hal


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Oct 28, 2018

Just to add to the previous comment, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is one of the best treatments for Borderline Personality Disorder and is far more effective than medications. People with Borderline often also have depression and anxiety which is why antidepressants may be helpful but depression and anxiety medications may have little to no effect on the core symptoms of Borderline. This is why many people with Borderline may end up on 5 or more psychiatric medications at the same time since they may report that no medication is helping so their doctor keeps adding on more medications.

Dec 05, 2017

While I'm replying to your comment over 1+ year later, it's still better late than never. Not sure of your age and/or gender, etc., but I have read several books on BPD and NPD. I know of several family members, alive and deceased, going back at least 4 generations that I know of (my generation included) who have or had one or both BDP/NPD/HPD. The two best books I read were Understanding the Borderline Mother by Christine Ann Lawson and Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist by Margalis Fjelstad. These two books changed my life and literally created a paradigm shift in my life. Surviving a Borderline Parent and Stop Walking on Eggshells were also very good, but the initial two I mentioned helped me the most, as it applied directly to my particular situation as my mother has BPD/NPD/HPD and my dad is the 'caretaker' in their relationship. One other book I read that could be very helpful for those with BPD/NPD is called Mindfulness For Borderline Personality Disorder by Blaise Aguirre, MD, and Gillian Galen, PsyD. I read through this and it's basically like free dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). To my knowledge, DBT has been shown to be the most effective form of psychotherapy for those with BPD/NPD/HPD. And, to my knowledge the only three things known to help are anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication and psychotherapy. And, of course, me being a Christian, I believe God can work miracles in people's lives if they'll allow Him. Cheers!

Aug 30, 2016

This is the only book I found incredibly helpful, as I just discovered I have BPD. It was informative, and helped me realize that my life does in fact make sense. I know of no other books on BPD. If anyone ever has a recommendation, let me know. I also have three unpublished memoirs that reveal inside the mind of someone with BPD. If you have BPD, or someone you know, and would like to talk, or ask a question, feel free to message me.

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